April 29, 2014

always two.


did you grow up with some sort of folklore in your family? 

i did. one of them went like this - "always scoop rice twice into a bowl because just one scoop can make you lose "jeong" in a person." jeong is like a bond that is shared between two people. and so my mom always scooped twice instead of once and always repeated that phrase. 

it was 2001. i remember being out on a group lunch at a chinese buffet restaurant. yangkyu, who i just met, was behind me and i scooped rice for both me and him. he stopped me after the first scoop but i said "no, you're always supposed to scoop twice because doing it only once will mean there will be no more "jeong" between you and me. he laughed because he never heard of it before but agreed anyway. 

a few weeks later we were on our way to noraebang {or karaoke} after grabbing some dinner at a restaurant with a few folks. we all had candy and yangkyu kept trying to put something in my hand, which i thought was his candy wrapping. i stuck my hands in my pockets and said "nooo, i don't want your garbage!" but when he was finally able to pry my hands open he placed two pieces of candy and said "because you said only one would mean "jeong" would go away. 

i held on to those two pieces of candy for a long time and analyzed over and over again with my girlfriends at what his gesture meant. 

it's such a fleeting moment but it's one of the fondest memories i have of when i first met yangkyu. 

43 comments

  1. You 2 are such romantics! We Chinese are icky about receiving gifts which have sharp edges like cutlery (sever the relationship) or clocks (sending one off at a wake). Watches are ok tho'.

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    1. i'm always so intrigued by cultural and family folklore. i find them so fascinating!

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  2. OH! Such a sweet sand romantic gesture…. thank you for sharing a peek into this personal moment!

    ~Alexis Grace of North On Harper

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  3. Such a sweet story, Jane. The stories you guys have always remind me of a Cameron Crowe movie:)

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  4. that is the sweetest. I love this story. You two seem so genuine with each other and I can almost feel that through this story! I may or may not have grown up with folklore like that. I feel like I did but, I can't recall any specific ones. (FYI my parents passed when I was very young so memories that recall cultural references feel so sparse.) But, I really like this one.
    xo,
    nancy

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    1. oh i'm so sorry to hear about your parents. xx my mom has since suffered from a mental disorder and so these little snippets remind me of her before the onset of her disorder. not that i don't like who she is now, but it helps to remember who she was too.

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  5. Cutest story ever! I can just imagine the LENGTHY discussions you had with your girlfriends over the meaning behind his words :-) Too funny!

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  6. awww! I love when you share these stories about you and yangkyu! You two are the sweetest and most inspirational couple! Love it!

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  7. that is one of the sweetest things i have ever read! what a treasured memory. xx

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  8. Aww, that's so cute! Yangkyu actually listens!

    My grandma used to tell me that if I didn't eat every grain of rice in my bowl, I'd marry a man with bad acne. Ever since, I can't stand wasting food and try to eat everything on my plate. Darn you grandma, for making me a fatty!

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    1. i have heard of that one! my mom used to tell me that if we slept right after we ate then we would wake up as cows and get sold to a farmer and we would always be working to help sow the land, etc. i think a lot of parents told this to their children because they didn't them to be lazy! i was so so scared!

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  9. This is too sweet, and yes our family believe the same thing! I think it's a lovely tradition to follow :DD

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    1. oh yay! you have heard of it too! :) i found it so weird that not every korean american knew some of the folklore i grew up with. i always thought that maybe my mom made a few of them up herself!

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  10. That is so cute! And my family had that type of "folklore" too. But I never heard of that particular one. I kind of have a similar story with Scott. He gave me chocolate when we were deployed in Iraq. He had heard from another person that I liked chocolate. Maybe I should tell the story now that you've inspired me. =) Also, you've got mail!!! - Hugs, Jess L

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  11. Cute story :) I always scoop rice with two scoops too but I don't have a meaning behind it. I think its just so I can control how much rice I get hahaha.

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  12. oh this is sooooo sweet Jane! You really brought a smile to my face in the middle of a pretty sucky day at work. Glad I came here during my lunch break ;)

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  13. Ahh you're killing me with cuteness this is way too precious!

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  14. Ahhhh...that was the cutest, I loved it!! Bless. So sweet that he remembered as well :)) Precious. I hope you have a great day - both of you xx

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  15. Such a sweet story, love when you share those little bits about your relationship :) I can't recall right now any folklore from my mom (sure I have!), a part from the most common mom advice: "drink your orange juice ASAP or the vitamins will go away and it will be wasted", so I always feel a hurry when having a juice in front of me; I have to drink it quickly afraid of the vitamins fading, it's like I can see it ruining (not real, I know ;P )

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    1. i love hearing about these little tidbits from households! :) so cute! maybe i should drink my juice asap too!

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  16. Jane, those are both such beautiful stories between you two. It really touched my heart. My family has little quirks too (and I believe them). HaHa I rather not chance it. Excellent post.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  17. I think it's such a sweet story. For him to eventually embrace something that means to you.

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  18. What a cute story! Simple traditions like that are so sweet. Have a wonderful day!

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  19. Talking about folklore, my mom has plenty when we were young! LOL! But there's one that I can particularly remember. When I was a kid and learning to use chopsticks, I'm so bad at it (even now too), and I held it almost at both ends to grab food. My mom said "the more you used the end of the chopsticks, the man that you will marry someday will stay around the neighborhood". I didn't like any of the boys around my neighborhood and so I started to use chopsticks almost at the very edge of it. The higher the better! Now, I'm with an American! LMAO! Oh, and my bf sucks at using chopsticks too. Just like how I used it when I was a kid. So I told him "you're banned from using chopsticks. Use a fork instead". LOL!!!! How's that for folklore?

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  20. Awww! That is so cute! You guys are so cute! It's amazing how when a man feels something towards you, things like that stick with them and they can repeat it or refer to it with such fondness. You inspired him. I love this memory and love that you've kept it and that you've shared it with us. I want one just like it someday. Maybe I already have it...

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  21. So much sweetness!!!! Yangkyu is a seriously great guy, I can just tell from the stories you've shared so far.

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  22. WHAT this is actually one of the cutest stories I've ever heard omg! Dying!

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